When You Feel Stuck Between Who You’ve Been and Who You’re Becoming
- kjierstien
- Jul 6
- 2 min read
You’ve outgrown an old version of yourself, but the new version isn’t quite clear yet.
Maybe you’ve graduated, changed jobs, left a relationship, or started questioning who you are and what you really want. You feel in-between: no longer who you were, not yet who you’re becoming. And while people say “this is just a phase,” it still feels confusing and lonely.
This stuckness isn’t a failure, it’s a message. A gentle nudge that something in your life is ready to shift.
Whether you’re navigating a big life transition or shedding old patterns shaped by trauma, these in-between seasons are an invitation to pause, reflect, and realign.
Why You Might Feel Stuck
Growth isn’t a straight line. One moment, you’re feeling clear and confident. The next, you’re caught in old self-doubt or people-pleasing patterns. That tension is part of becoming, and it can be especially intense in young adulthood.
You might feel:
Like you’re “falling behind” while everyone else moves forward
Tired of trying to meet other people’s expectations
Confused about your identity or direction
Pulled between who you think you should be and who you actually are
You’re not alone in feeling this way. The uncertainty might feel like a breakdown, but it’s often a breakthrough waiting to happen.
How Therapy Can Help
Therapy gives you space to untangle what’s going on inside, to slow down, notice what’s surfacing, and reconnect with your values. You don’t have to “fix” everything at once. You just have to begin.
We might explore:
How past experiences shaped your current patterns
What “belonging” means to you now
How to build confidence without chasing perfection
Which parts of yourself feel stuck, afraid, or disconnected
I draw on Internal Family Systems (IFS), DBT, and trauma-informed care to support you, in ways that honour your identity, pace, and nervous system.
You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
Whether you're in university, on the edge of a career shift, or still figuring it out, therapy can help you reconnect with yourself.
You might benefit from:
Ongoing young adult therapy
Parent support therapy if you're supporting a teen or young adult through this journey
Ready to Take the Next Step?
You don’t have to wait until everything makes sense to begin. Sometimes, the next right thing is simply reaching out.
Book a free 15-minute consultation and let’s talk about how I can support you.
